Positive Male Role Model

The more you turn the bad ones away, the more they pursue. I would like to have a in house father figure for my boys. My oldest had my ex and he definitely had a major impact on how he acts and who he became to be as a child. Now that he is approaching those "tween" ages I would like someone else to be around. No offense to women who raised their sons alone, it's just not something I would like to do. I don't have a major selection of men who I like. The ones who really want to be there are not my top choices. The ones I have as top choices don't want to be there. So I guess that leaves me to find someone new. I don't really know how to go about that though. I don't like to go out and really socialize. I guess I am going to have to but not even sure how to meet someone. And not to sound so cliche but there isn't a major selection out there. And it's not like I will meet someone and just rush into living together or something. I feel like my children deserve even just a father figure. I know that shit won't work between me and their father. But that doesn't mean they don't deserve to learn how to become men. I don't think it is something I can teach them. I know, I should've thought about this before I had my youngest son. It wasn't his decision to be here. But now that I have two so it's even more important that they see a positive male role model. And my father and mother are still together and alive. Yes, my dad is a great man. They are my role models for marriage and love. But still, I want my boys to see that Mommy can have that too. Is that thinking about myself only?

Lashonn